Archive | January, 2010

Unconditional Love – Praise Others

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What is it that all people are seeking whether or not they realize it? Unconditional Love. I realized this babysitting. At 3 1/2 years old, a child is still innocent. The child is saying, without saying: Love me unconditionally. Love me for who I am and how I am growing.

The desire for unconditional love never stops! It is inherent in human nature!

From our boss, we want to hear: “Thank you for doing an excellent job this past year. I recognize it and here is that big raise you were hoping for!” Realistic? Maybe! The self-employed person wants to hear: “I respect you! Let me send some business your way!” Career is not an ideal environment from which we seek unconditional love, but think about how many people place so much importance on career? That may mean they are not getting love elsewhere! That is my first memoir!

From ourselves: “I love you for you!

From our spouse, we want to hear: “I love you!”

From our kids, we want to hear: “I love you, mommy!” or “I love you, daddy!”

From our relatives and friends, we want to hear: “Happy to see you!” “We love you!”

You get the idea, we are all seeking unconditional love!

What is unconditional love?

It is loving people for who they are without judgment.

What about the people who mistreat you? Unconditional love is not about allowing yourself to be mistreated. A person must still maintain self-respect. In any relationship, acceptable ways of relating exist. If a relationship is not working, disengage from it.

How to practice unconditional love?

1. Kindness: Be kind to others. Think before you say and do things!
2. Praise: Be complimentary to others! Recognize what others are doing that is positive and praise them!
3. Lend a helping hand: Be helpful!

Practicing unconditional love is easy. Kindness, praise and lending a helping hand – did I forget anything?

I believe unconditional love is why it became really easy for me to give up my career. I had already saved for retirement and I realized that the unconditional love I receive from myself, my husband, friends and family is adequate for my happiness! I am in a good place right now.

Share the love!

Dining in versus Dining out – Snowmass

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I live by feel. I follow my emotions. When I walked into the Snowmass condo, I loved it.

Dining in? You betcha! We stopped at the grocery store on the way to the condo and bought food that we like to eat; for breakfast: plain and vanilla yogurt, bananas, whole grain bread, peanut butter, blueberries, granola cereal and milk; for snacking: potato chips, avocados, tortilla chips, baby carrots, manchego cheese, apples, dill pickles, dark chocolate candy, and string cheese; for dinner: frozen pizza, fresh angel hair and tortellini pasta, plump red tomatoes, crisp mixed lettuce greens, balsamic vinegar, olive oil, red pepper flakes, and garlic salt.

We made breakfast everyday and dinner three evenings.

Check out another blog for our lunch dining.

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Distractions

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Distractions! We all have them! They prevent us from connecting with the people who mean the most to us, our immediate family.

What are your distractions?

Mine is the computer. I can easily spend the evening typing away at the computer. My husband has the same distraction. We can sit on the sofa together at our laptops! I am aware that we do this; he is too!

Awareness is the first step to realizing that you are not being fully present! The next step is to make an effort to connect despite your distraction. For me, it means I will put away my computer for a little while and pay attention to my husband and the dogs. He makes the same effort.

Other than the computer, we are really good at not being distracted in one another’s present. The phone can be a distraction occasionally, but it is not a constant distraction for either of us! We enjoy each other’s company and make an effort to minimize the distractions!

Lunch – Snacking – Snowmass

Since Alan and I have been skiing together, I have been making us lunch meat sandwiches for lunch most days; it is a tradition. When we go to the lodge, we eat our sandwiches and order something supplementary, like a bowl of soup and/or french fries. Depending on the resort, the fries are either a repeat or not. In Snowmass, the fries were [blank].

We always bring snacks with us in our backpacks! We eat small amounts of food often! Typically a mix of protein and carbohydrates, like string cheese and apple slices. Proper sports nutrition has worked well to sustain us [protein], give us energy [carbohydrates], and keep our blood sugar level.

Mimi's Cafe – Bee Cave, Texas

Two years ago on business I dined at the Mimi’s Cafe in Columbus, Ohio and I was not crazy about it! I ordered salmon which arrived overcooked and dry. When a close Austin friend and her out-of-town guests decided to go to Mimi’s Cafe for dinner on the night that Alan and I could join them, I explained to my friend my first experience at the Mimi’s Cafe restaurant chain and added: I’m willing to try it again!

Not all restaurants in the same restaurant chain are created equal. See my blogs on the small San Antonio based chain, Paesanos:

Paesanos – San Antonio Italian Preview
Paesanos Riverwalk – Good
Paesanos Lincoln Heights – Disappointing.

The Austin metro area has two Mimi’s Cafes: one in Bee Cave and one in North Austin. The Bee Cave location is where we went that evening. Bee Cave is closer to both of our houses and traffic is lighter during rush hour on Highway 71 than on Mopac headed north! Austin has traffic issues during rush hour.

The food was pleasant. Before the meal, the restaurant serves a basket of bread. Alan and I shared a piece of banana bread, pumpkin bread and a roll. The banana bread had good flavor and consistency, the pumpkin bread was stale, and the roll had a nice texture!

For an appetizer, I ordered a green salad with balsamic vinaigrette. The salad was not particularly memorable in a good or bad way. For a main course, I ordered the Honey Dijon Salmon. The salmon came with mashed potatoes and asparagus. The entree and sides were cooked to perfection: the salmon was moist and properly cooked; the mashed potatoes were creamy, but not dripping in butter; the asparagus was slightly firm and fresh! For the dessert, I ordered the chocolate mousse with raspberries on top. I thought it was good for a skinny dessert; it did not taste skinny!

I typically do not go to a restaurant and order an appetizer, entree and dessert. But when I looked at the price of an 8oz piece of salmon versus a Just Enough dinner including a 4oz piece of salmon, an appetizer and a dessert, the 4oz piece of salmon, including an appetizer and dessert, ended up being either a $1 less or a $1 more! And I got more variety – a green salad and a dessert!

Would I go to Mimi’s Cafe again? Yes! With the exception of the stale pumpkin bread, I enjoyed the meal. Although Mimi’s Cafe is a chain which started in Anaheim , California, it is the type of American food on which I grew up: minimal spice, fish or meat, vegetable, and potato. For the comfort of my New England upbringing, without the hassle of cooking, I’d eat at Mimi’s!

Week Long Ski Trip Packing – Inventory

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I packed for the Aspen/Snowmass trip on December 22nd; I knew we would be in Missouri from December 23rd – December 28th. Then on December 31st and January 1st , we were in Houston. That did not leave me much time to pack for a ski trip leaving January 2nd. I planned ahead and got all of my ski stuff ready early.

I found it interesting unpacking the evening we arrived in Aspen/Snowmass. I had forgotten what I had packed. Surprise! I forgot to pack a skull cap for my helmet and a light colored bra. By accident, I packed an extra jogging bra.

My packing inventory for this ski trip:

For skiing:
4 pairs of ski socks
3 neck gators
3 pairs of ski gloves
2 sets of long underwear
2 black face masks
1 pair of skis
1 pair of poles
1 pair of ski boots
1 ski jacket
1 pair of ski pants
1 snowboarding jacket
1 pair of snowboarding pants
1 zippered fleece
1 pair of glove liners
1 pair of ski goggles
1 pair of sunglasses
1 ski helmet

For après ski:
2 après ski hats
1 black pair of earmuffs
1 pair of après ski boots

For dinner out:
3 pairs of jeans
2 long sleeved shirts
2 cashmere sweaters
2 mini purses
1 stylish short sleeved shirt
1 pair of casual gloves
1 pair of leather gloves
1 stylish scarf and hat

For lounging:
1 tracksuit
1 long sleeved shirt
1 pair of casual socks

For the hot tub:
1 pair of flip flops
1 bikini

Sleepwear:
1 pair of pajamas
1 pair of sock slippers

For the gym:
2 jogging bras
1 gym top
1 gym capri
1 gym short sleeve shirt
1 pair of gym socks
1 pair of running shoes

Undergarments:
10 pairs of underwear
1 cami
1 bra

Did I use everything?

Amy's Rice Mac 'n Cheese – Frozen dinner

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I’m going to start writing about frozen dinners because I love them, really. I am using the term frozen dinners instead of TV dinners because I rarely watch TV while eating dinner.

I started eating frozen dinners as a child on the not-so-frequent occasion my parents did not cook something; my parents enjoy cooking. In college, I did not eat many frozen dinners; I ate at the cafeteria or roommates cooked or I cooked [surprise!] or I ate at the food service establishment where I worked or I ate out [I love eating out!].

By 1995, I started eating frozen dinners regularly for dinner. I was a full-time student at the University of Texas, San Antonio (UTSA), studying accounting and business. My weekday routine was: for breakfast, a Starbucks muffin and double tall Vanilla latte; for lunch, a Subway sandwich and chips on campus or a chicken Caesar salad with the best foccacia bread ever at a locally owned restaurant [now closed] near campus; for an afternoon snack, a TCBY chocolate frozen yogurt with cookie dough; for dinner, a frozen dinner.

I remember this detail because I did the same exact thing most days! I drove to the Starbucks at I-10 and Huebner Road, next to H-E-B! UTSA had a handful of fast-food restaurants on campus and Subway was the healthiest and the cheapest for what I wanted to eat! Hard to forget! I drove to TCBY on Fredericksburg Road. San Antonio Memories!

From the ages of 24-26, I rarely cooked. I made chicken enchiladas and an occasional lobster, but that’s about it! I ate out for dinner too! Sound familiar? I have not changed. I did not like cooking in my 20s and I do not like cooking now!

Frozen dinners are one of the best inventions! When I was in my 20s, I ate Lean Cuisine frozen dinners. I had not discovered Amy’s or maybe Amy’s was not widely distributed in 1995-1996! People can get judgmental about frozen dinners: they are processed; they are frozen, etc. Here is an analogy of cooking macaroni and cheese from scratch or buying a frozen dinner.

Mac & Cheese, homemade: You buy the pasta [processed] and the cheese [processed] and make the mac ‘n cheese! People forget that pasta and cheese are processed foods; I’m not sure why.

Mac & Cheese, store bought frozen dinner: Somebody else buys the pasta [processed] and the cheese [processed]. You microwave the dinner. Some people argue that microwaving food is bad for you.

Leftovers? If you make Mac & Cheese from scratch, you may have leftovers which you put in the freezer. The frozen leftovers become frozen dinners. Freezing does not reduce the nutritional value of food from what I have read.

The moral of the story: It’s hard to argue that homemade Mac & Cheese is any better for you than Amy’s Mac & Cheese. I looked up Annatto, as I wrote this blog, and it is natural food coloring and flavor. Phew! [Sarcasm - I don't care! I love frozen dinners! Annatto or no annatto, I'm still buying this dinner!] I know that Amy’s uses higher quality and mostly recognizable ingredients; for those of you who put great importance on the ingredients’ list, it is a good argument for Amy’s dinners!

Amy’s Rice Mac & Cheese dinner is some of the best Mac & Cheese I have had; it is creamy and rich! It tastes like the real thing. I didn’t realize when I bought the dinner that it was Rice Mac & Cheese; I did not buy it because it was Gluten-Free. I just saw Amy’s and Mac & Cheese and put it in my basket. I’ll look harder for the real Mac & Cheese next time!

What about the environment? We recycle everything!

Driving – Austin – Kearney, Missouri – Austin

Flint Hills, headed back to Austin on Monday December 28

Flint Hills, headed back to Austin on Monday December 28

Alan and I used to fly to Missouri: mainly because I had three weeks of vacation and we did not want to use my vacation days driving. Now that I am retired, driving is easier and saves money.

Pros To Driving

Cost Savings: Our car is not in airport parking; we are not renting a car in Missouri; and we spend less money eating out during the road trip. Starbucks seems to be our biggest expense: we drank at least 4 Starbucks coffees each on the way to Missouri for the Christmas holiday. I did not keep track on the way home!

Quality Time together: We discover something new about each other each trip. I discovered this trip how much of a caffeine hound Alan is while driving. He typically drinks 1-2 caffeinated cups of coffee a day and this trip he has had 4 caffeinated beverages. I drink decaf most of the time because caffeine makes me jittery and stimulates my digestive system (TMI – I know, but some people like caffeine for that reason, I do not!) I also discovered that he likes to look at his iPhone while he driving. That is when I say, “Is there something I could look up for you?” He is addicted to that thing. Alan gets concerned when I press on the breaks too hard when I see traffic stopping or slowing down. I do react quickly to people who apply their breaks directly in front of me!

Teamwork: I drive from Austin to Oklahoma City – 6 hours driving time. Alan drives from Oklahoma City to Kearney, Missouri – 5 ½ hours of driving time. On the way home, Alan drives more than I do because he likes to drive us out of Kansas City. I do not like to drive in the dark, so that limits me on the way home if he starts out driving.

Can bring more of the things we want to bring: Liquids, food, toiletries. No having to pack liquids, like bottles of wine, in our suitcases. Toiletries did not need to be a certain size or packed in the suitcase.

Saddest Moment: The day of the trip, the garage door leading from the house into the garage was open. The car door was also open. Joey jumped in the car. Alan approached the car from front passenger side. I approached the car from the rear driver’s side and when Alan would open the door on his side Joey would go into the back and when I opened the door in the back Joey would go in the front. He did not want to get out of the car. He wanted to come with us.

Funniest Moment: The funniest moment on the Christmas trip headed to Missouri was when I was driving just south of Ft. Worth and I turned the radio onto a song by Billy Cunnington with the lyrics, “God is great, beer is good and people are crazy. “ That made both of us laugh!

Sweetest Moment: Looking at the Teddy Bears together at Starbucks in Emporia. I collect teddy bears and I want the Starbucks Christmas teddy bear. On the way home Alan remembered and bought me the bear on sale at the Starbucks in Ft. Worth! We know Starbucks well.

Nicest Starbucks this trip: In Edmond, Oklahoma at 15th and Bryant. Edmond appears to be a nice suburb of Oklahoma City. The Starbucks was 2 miles off of the highway in an upscale shopping center. It seemed to be the preferred hangout for high school boys and their girlfriends or amongst girlfriends, drinking coffee. Lots of cuteness!

Neutral:

Weather on the trip from Austin to Kearney: Temperature from 73 degrees in Fossil Creek, Texas (approximately 12pm) to 42 degrees in Kearney, Missouri (approximately 9:30PM). Daytime sunny in Texas and Oklahoma. Night and light rain in Kansas and Missouri. On the return trip, the temperature stayed around 35 degrees most of the trip. Snow in Kansas, Oklahoma and North Texas! But, fortunately, it was not snowing on the way home!

Cons:

The duration of the trip! It takes about 5-7 additional hours to drive than to fly. Definitely a better activity for people who have flexible schedules and vacation days to spare!

More dangerous. I saw a statistic years ago that driving is more dangerous than flying.

Olive Garden – Liberty, Missouri

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I love the Olive Garden! This is one restaurant where I could probably eat every day and not get tired of it.

My most memorable business trip for the Olive Garden? Richmond, Virginia. On a four night trip, Monday – Friday: for two nights, I ate at a local Italian restaurant and a local sushi restaurant; for the other two nights, I ate at the Olive Garden.

What makes the Olive Garden so great? The salad! The iceberg lettuce has a nice crunch to it. It is always fun to find a black olive in the mix – it becomes an adventure! Nobody fights over the pepperoncini pepper – not even me! The croutons add more crunch and the salad dressing is just enough, not too much. The grated cheese on that the waiter hand grates on top at request personalizes the salad.

Because, we all knew we were going to have Alan’s father’s pork ribs later that evening, we all agreed on a light lunch. We ordered salad for the table and three appetizers to share!

For our three appetizers, we agreed on: the Calamari, Smoked Mozzarella Fondue and the Sicilian Scampi. We all commented on how good the calamari was – the best that we had had. The breading in the calamari was lighter; this typically means that the oil which was used to fry the calamari was fresh; the calamari had a great flavor and a nice texture, not too tough or too soft. The Smoked Mozzarella reminded me of the Chile Con Queso appetizer that we have had at an Austin Tex-Mex restaurant called Guero’s. The Olive Garden appetizer had a subtle smoky flavor and an appealing stringy taffy-like consistency. The Sicilian Shrimp Scampi had firm bread and nice flavor. Everything tasted fresh!

Another positive Olive Garden experience? You betcha!

The Olive Garden consistently gets things right whenever and wherever I have been!

Dolores del Rio – San Antonio

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Dolores del Rio has character! On the Saturday night before the San Antonio Rock ‘n Roll Half Marathon, after eating at Paesanos-Lincoln Heights, Alan and I wanted to go out on the Riverwalk.

The danger of a destination half marathon? Partying the night before the race! We heard the next morning that several people had dropped out because they partied too much the night before the race! That was not us!

Near our hotel, Drury Plaza Hotel Riverwalk, we saw a cute looking Italian restaurant on the Riverwalk. The restaurant advertised itself as Fine Italian Dining – Jazz – Belly Dancing Nightly. We thought, Why not? We could get a glass of wine and then call it a night.

We went up to the Maître d’ and asked: Could we get a glass of wine or dessert? The Maître d’ said that they were a small restaurant, did not have a bar and only did dinner. In recessionary times, the Maître d’ had some attitude! Alan said, “You are the most interesting looking place that we have seen on the Riverwalk.” Alan was totally sincere; the place looked interesting. The restaurant had a small Riverwalk footprint; only a small door lead up to the restaurant; it had a secretive, off limits appeal. We like quirky sometimes and tonight we were in the mood for quirky!

When the Maître d’ returned, he said he had made a table near the piano for us. The restaurant was packed with people. The jazz band was playing. As it was explained to us by our waiter: (1) there are no set hours for the restaurant, (2) no set schedule for the employees – people show up and work when they want to work, and (3) the jazz bands are formed randomly based on what type of instrument they need that evening. Sound pretty un-Amercian? Where is the structure? I am liking it already. The way the place is run reminds me of a Greek restaurant, Sun Ray Cafe , in KC that operates similarly: the owner opens the restaurant when he wants to cook! It has a huge following.

The table by the piano had a great view of the other patrons and the jazz band. Originally I had wanted dessert, but they did not have a dessert that I felt like, so I ordered a glass of wine. Alan ordered a glass of wine. The wine was Carlos Rossi – funny, I remember Carlos Rossi not being good, but this stuff was good. The guy brought us a third glass; he said it was because he had to open another bottle! That did not make much sense, but whatever. Now, we are running a half marathon the next day and we have more wine to share! It is OK; we have done this before! Not smart, but we’d be fine on race day.

We sat and listened to the band and I got some pictures of the quirky interior. The restaurant reminded me of Austin – it had a lot of funky, eclectic decor. Not the type of place I’d expect on the Riverwalk. This restaurant has apparently been open for 16 years. It was open in San Antonio when I lived there from February 1994 – May 1999. But, I never went to the restaurant. I rarely went to the Riverwalk!

When the belly dancer came out, another group of Austinites sitting near us started putting dollars in her skirt. Some of them were also running the half marathon the next day. We spoke with them a little while. They thought the food was good and worth the trip. The restaurant cleared out within a half an hour of our arriving. Now they had plenty of seating!

Dolores del Rio wins the prize for the quirkiest place that we discovered on this visit to San Antonio! Next time we will eat dinner there! If you get there before us, tell us how it is! This would be a great place to get a group together for a road trip to San Antonio!